Choosing true happiness over temporary hormone surge.
Much have indeed been written about love and as I am writing this, I believe countless other writers are presently punching their keyboards in a bid to expand more on this four letter word. I would not bore you with the cliches, you probably have heard, said and done more about it than I have.
Lust and love are like identical twin brothers; a lot in common but still different. While Attraction is key to both traits, one is long-lasting than the other. It is not uncommon for people to confuse one for another but knowing exactly what to do in such dillema might not be as easy as it has been played out all movies.
Both has to do with emotions, hormones and brain chemicals. You see that person walk into the room and there is a sudden increase in your heartbeat, relax, you are not physically dying; you are in love or maybe not. That person in your office too gives you a similar feeling and you are pretty much confused about which is which.
You do have to make a decision unless of course you are planning to break somebody’s heart which might likely even be your own because you are likely to lose on both fronts with your indecision. Making a bad decision also will make you end up in the same mess.
What Attracts You to Both?
Examining carefully what you finding intriguing and attractive in both of them is a good pointer to which one is best for you. The key here is to look for both abstract and material qualities. Do you like him/her because he/she is caring, selfless, compassionate or because he/she dresses well, drives a mercedes, has a foreign accent or, oh, the abs and curves?
Chances are the attraction will wane when those things are no longer there or when the early relationship buzz begins to fade and he/she becomes less caring or compassionate. While it is easy to fake a lot of emotions of care or love just to make someone fall in love, little things can give a pretentious person away. Observe how he/she treats common people like waiters, delivery boys and you can get a pretty clear picture of who your potential lover is.
Similarly, you are less likely to still be attracted to that person when someone with a sexier accent, better-looking abs and curves, and richer wardrobe comes along.
Basically, your attraction is more secured with someone who you adore his inner qualities. Someone you will appreciate more and love ‘what he/she is’ rather than ‘who he/she is’. Love is about security, so is happiness. Good luck with your decisions.
