Writing Etiquette (Part 2)
Be careful of the comments you make on other people’s work.
There are allot of people here on Triond that are beginners, they want and appreciate your comments. Since many people are first time viewers until you have established a relationship or opened up some lines of communication, please think about your comments before writing them. “People have feelings”. As I wrote to someone earlier, no one likes a know-it-all. Criticism is good but it does not have to be harsh. I received a comment and to me it was not appreciated but very hurtful, simply because it seemed more like a command then helpful advice.
I said this in part one, we all should be here to help one another, but if you are incapable of saying anything nice and constructive, to the point you are emitting flames out of your mouth. (”Don’t leave a comment”.) I notice that recently the topic on Triond has been about the comments being left, frankly I think people are fed-up. Sometime it’s not always what is written but how it is written, something you say may affect a writer and have them thinking if they want to continue writing or maybe they are just wasting their time. So the next time you make a comment do it with love not as if you wrote the book on writing.
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October 23rd, 2009 at 2:15 pm
I was taught from early in life, it’s not what you say, but how you say it. I know that we open ourselves up for criticism bt posting our work here. We are going to have to develop a thick skin because not everyone is going to like what we write. We have to try to glean from the comments what is helpful, and leave the rest.
October 23rd, 2009 at 2:16 pm
Been a part of getting bad coments from rude people that cant even write as well as I can.But I roll my eyes,delete it and hope they improve over time.But it is hurtful and dont do it if you cant say nothing nice.That is something I dont do,,its a nice coment or nothing at all.This is what my mamma taught me and I live by that rule.a article worth reading about a sore spot we are having in our triond community.
October 23rd, 2009 at 4:21 pm
It is true that some people like pointing out to others how they are not doing it right in a wrong manner, but the fact remains that no writer will always receive good comments from people because people have different ways of reasoning, and our manner of approach are not the same. The best thing to do as a writer is keep on writing and improving on your skills even when you receive all sorts of criticisms from others cos some people will always tell you that you are wrong even when you may be perfect.
Success is for those that diligently and consistently seek it. Feel on top of the world every time.
October 23rd, 2009 at 5:22 pm
I totally agree with you. I would much rather a person not say anything at all if they are going to be rude. I always want to encourage all writers. I never leave negative comments for anyone else’s work. I believe in the old saying that if you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say it at all.
October 23rd, 2009 at 5:48 pm
I don’t mind honest criticism, but some people just write rude comments to be mean.
October 23rd, 2009 at 5:54 pm
Thanks for writing this. There are a few people who are just rude and you can’t take it personally. If they give you good advice, but in an insensitive message, you can take the advice without taking the rudeness to heart.
If you are serious about writing, you need to know that some people won’t like your work, and negative comments just come with the territory. Keep writing!
October 23rd, 2009 at 6:10 pm
Well said, there is no excuse for lack of manners and hurtful comments.
October 24th, 2009 at 1:33 am
Agree wholeheartedly! I like constructive criticism, because it makes me think and explore. I don’t mind when fols point out errors, because then I can fix them and have a better product. But rudeness is just stupid and petty. Thanks for writing this, hopefully it will be well-read. I am stumbling for you.
October 24th, 2009 at 3:07 am
I’ve got a Youtube account too and yeah sometimes people just simply want to a pick a fight for nothing. They think they are Simon Cowell perhaps.;D
October 24th, 2009 at 6:22 am
You can’t help about people born with hidden spiked edged tail. They are specifically made for chaos and seemed like they brought the burning pit of hell within their heart. Accept them as encouragement to make a better article for indeed writing one would definitely piss them off. Nice point here my friend.
October 24th, 2009 at 5:16 pm
Good advice.
October 25th, 2009 at 2:43 am
Good advice. Before this article I was just going through a article where a guy had made a comment requesting for a gay friend.v
October 25th, 2009 at 10:38 pm
I agree with you.
October 29th, 2009 at 12:41 pm
I’m totally with you on this one. I was taught ‘if you haven’t got anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all’. It’s all very well to go handing out advice but it can utterly destroy someone’s confidence if they constantly receive put downs on the bad points rather than boosters on the good!!
October 30th, 2009 at 4:37 am
I would like to thank the master stickinthemud for pointing these things out, hope that my next article will meet with his approval. Anyone who is not comfortable with their work log into stickinthemuds site and ask him for a few pointers.
October 31st, 2009 at 11:40 am
I never claimed to be any such thing. If you don’t like the comment then delete it. It was meant as honest feedback, nothing more.
October 31st, 2009 at 12:05 pm
I think our first priority when leaving comments should be to encourage the writer. Secondly, if we have a suggestion, we should do it in a constructive way that does not tear down the writer. Nasty comments that just serve to discourage the writer should be promptly deleted.