Triond Community: Being a Part of One Anothers Lives

We’re all going to have our own experiences writing for triond, but I can say mine has been wonderful. Sure, I have greater goals than they can help me achieve(I haven’t been shy about sharing the financial displeasure), but all in all, it’s been a good experience. Yesterday, a writer shared something that was uplifting. I don’t know why I connected with them in a way, but I did. Perhaps I’m feeling that people don’t always open up about themselves, and most of the time you can’t take anything at face value on here anyway. It made me think of those that I value as writers. I especially like when their writing is an extension of themselves. When something is portrayed in a warm, genuine way, it’s noticeable.

When I first came to Triond, in 2007, I wasn’t sure how “this” was going to go. I started reading peoples work, and a young woman wrote a piece trashing people who send her messages to “be friends.” She went on to bad mouth others that want comments just as badly as she does(don’t we all?). After all, comments make us feel good, we gain confidence, and we love when someone shows interest in our work. What struck me, was all those that commented and agreed, to appease her. Who needs friends like that? It was mean what she did! I was shocked at the support that the community gave that piece of junk she wrote. Were they afraid to lose her comment(laughing)? It was a slap in all of our faces, and shame on anyone that said, “right on!” I never forgot that, and it caused me to looked towards those wonderful quiet writers that sincerely want to be recognized for good writing and their passion behind it. Yes, I want to write about making money, but please realize I am a human with feelings, and writing is just something that I do. I want friends to care about, to learn about, to contribute something of value through our writing, and make a difference in each others lives. Is this a business? Yes, for many. But, there’s much more to it than that.

I never forgot when I was new and I came across that article she wrote. It was such a turn off! I would have taken her off my friends list instantly if she had made it on there. Don’t you think there’s enough despair in the world, that we don’t need to hurt anyone’s feelings? Some people survive on “comments” here on Triond, so does that need to be bashed? She could have just not responded to a request if she didn’t like what the writer had to offer. One article isn’t going to stop our mailbox from filing up with requests. But, she too was relying on all of the what? One hundred comments she received from that article? I much rather prefer to be kind, take an interest, learn about others, and give someone a break.