Thick Skin: So You Want to be Critiqued?

You’ve finished your masterpiece. You’ve proofread, cut and polished it until you can’t take anymore. Now it’s time to see if your peers approve as well. It’s time for the critique. Whether this is your writer’s group, an internet board or people close to you, be sure you know how to take criticism.

So what should you not do?

1. Take it Personally

   There is nothing worse than seeing a hopeful writer lash out at his or her peers because they found something lacking in your writing. Not only have you marked yourself as an amateur, kicking and screaming on the metaphoric floor, but chances are you’ve become a pariah as well. The next time you ask for a critique, don’t be surprised if no one is willing to help you.

2. Be Ungrateful

   Let’s say the remarks are scathing. Show your professionalism with a thank you. Even if you disagree, be thankful anyway. This will not only show you can take the comments, but you’re also polite about it. People will be willing to help you repeatedly for that fact alone.

3. Be Rude

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   You are asking for criticism. This is not your chance to be critical of other people. Remember that most writers who offer help are taking the time to give their opinions on how to improve your work. That’s time they’re not writing or reading for themselves. If you decide to verbally attack that person’s opinion, don’t expect much of a response when you ask for help again.

4. Throw a Tantrum

   This happens more often on internet boards than in person because of the anonymity the internet provides. But this does not mean you will get away with it. People have long memories, and if you decide to show your proverbial rear on the boards-people will remember. The other thing to keep in mind is agents, editors and publishers read those forums as well. If you used your real name and threw a hissy fit, they will recall that unfortunate moment when you query or promote your manuscript. It will be a rejection before you get your foot through the door.

5. Not Listen

   Reposting a query letter or an excerpt of your work with little to no changes per suggestions will be noticed. It will tell those who gave feedback either you are not paying attention, don’t care, or not willing to listen. They in turn will give you the same.

Always remember writing for publication is hard. If you think lay critiques are rough, you are not ready for the professional agents, editors and critics who will not forgive a misstep. And people do listen to professional critics.

Get your thick skin now before those critics eat you alive. And always remember: It’s not personal, it’s business.