Triond Etiquette: How be Successful with The Triond Community

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This new Triond member’s question had to do with what’s appropriate etiquette when adding friends on Triond. The fact that he was considerate enough to ask me this question before he began adding friends clearly shows me that he’s going fit in perfectly with the Triond community already, because it’s clear that he has a heart of gold and is writing for the right reasons.

I wrote him back immediately and then thanked him for inspiring me to write this article.

I let him know that when I first began on Triond in September 2006 I added everyone and found that some added me back some didn’t. However, when I went back to review my list of Triond friends, I realized that I actually didn’t begin making Triond friends until 2007 which means that it took me awhile to catch on to making friends on this site. Then I started to remember all the mistakes I made in the beginning!

As most of us already know spamming is never appropriate.

However, when I got to thinking, I remembered that I was actually guilty of spamming for the first month or so I started writing. Sometimes if I read an article on a topic I’d written about, I thought, “Wow, I’m sure this person would love to read my article since I wrote about something they didn’t and I’m sure they’d want to know about it.”

That was a mistake.

You’ll find that when you leave links to your articles on other writers’ work, your efforts will actually work against you. The consequence: You’ll receive an email from someone saying spamming is wrong, suddenly lose a Triond friend, or simply not understand why people aren’t reading your work. These are all big mistakes.

But, fear not, they’re not irreversible mistakes, after all if this was the case I wouldn’t still be writing for Triond!

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What is spamming exactly?

It includes everything from:

• Leaving your links on other artists’ work
• To sending emails to your friend list saying any of the following things: ”I added you add me”, “Please read all my articles”, “I read your articles they’re great, please read mine”,
• And any of the countless variations on these which are, in essence, commands.

When you compare spamming to making new friends in the real world, would you meet someone for the first time and ask them to suddenly do a dozen different favors for you when you don’t even know them? It’s very important to look at spamming in much the same way.

If you’ve already spammed some people, in my humble experience, I would advise you to stop now, but realize not all is lost.

Currently, I’m reading a book that says, with anything in life, if you want to receive, you must give FIRST, but you must GIVE without expecting anything in return. You must read and support the work of your fellow Triond community, add them and then hope they return the gesture. But, hope is very different than expecting someone who doesn’t even know you to do something for you.

As most of us know, when we feel free to make a choice, we’re more likely to choose something that’s good for another person, but when we feel like we have to do something for someone, it makes us feel a bit put off. Am I wrong?

I let this new Triond writer know that the writing world and social networking can be compared metaphorically to making friends in the real world. I’ve mentioned it before, but for the influx of new Triond writers who are still learning to navigate in the Triond world, it’s very important to keep this in mind.

And, essentially, this is the vision I believe Triond had in mind when creating this site: To make a platform where not only artists of all genres and experience levels could display their work, but also learn and grow from one another. The whole “mechanics” behind the way this site works is that you must connect with each other to be success: Another metaphor to life, because after all, we truly can’t life without one another.

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Connecting with great artists all over the world

In the process, I’ve felt humbled over and over again, to realize great people read my work and applaud it: professors, doctors, teachers, engineers, published authors and so forth. When I read their bios I’m reminded over and over again, how blessed I am to be a part of this gifted community.

I also once read that if you want anything in life, beyond Triond success, you must give to other people what you wish they would give to you. For example, if you have a significant other who you wish would give you more compliments, turn around and give him/her more compliments. When you change your actions, you will consequently change theirs. When you do great things for other people, you reap great rewards.  If you wish for more views, more comments, and more financial success, give it to other people and watch it rush powerfully back into your life.  What you plant you reap, what you give comes back to you infinitely.

Triond’s rapidly growing success

Now that Triond’s growth has tripled in the past year and we have over 200,000 members and counting, it’s important to remember what made Triond strong and why we continue to grow. Without new, considerate, kind hearted members and seasoned members like the one who inspired me to write this article, there’s no way Triond could continue to grow.

Great companies and communities that last the test of time are built on one thing and one thing only: love.

Always keep this in mind when you’re leaving comments, receiving questions from other members, etc. While some writers will stop reader spammers work completely or may even chastise a spammer, why not instead educate that person? After all, I sincerely didn’t know that I was spamming by leaving my links in the beginning, in fact, I really had no idea what that was.  And, when you give more love than someone has shown you, this is when you begin to change the world.  This is when you realize the person you’re giving love to could one day come across someone you love and because of you, they treat your loved one with more kindness. 

It’s a constant circle of love and we’re all intrinsically connected to each other.

So, why not, actually embrace these new members, take them under your wing and lead them to success and joy?

Because it’s important to remember, some people are navigating through the internet world for the very first time, some are your grandmothers and grandfathers who have always dreamed of writing and you could be the one to help make them feel comfortable writing for the very first time. If you suddenly shun them or make them feel otherwise, you might forever turn away one of the greatest artists our world could have ever known.

In my heart, THIS is the only way I believe the Triond community will continue to attract and eventually become the most popular writing site on the internet.

So who can you add as a Triond friend?

Anyone your heart desires, just don’t expect them to add you back. Begin to read their work, view their pictures and before you know it, they’ll most assuredly return the favor. Leave a really heart felt comment that shows you really care about what they’ve written. Or StumbleUpon their article and let them know. It’s easy to make friends just listen to your heart and you’ll always be good.

And, remember, take care of yourself and each other.

Joie Schmidt © Copyright 2010 All Rights Reserved.

For more great reading:

• The Triond Writer’s Guide to Success
• The Road to Financial Freedom With Triond
• Why Deleting Comments Does a Writer Good
• Answers to My Triond Success and Income
• Triond Tips: Have You Hugged Your Articles Today?
• How to Keep Your Articles in Constant Circulation
• Triond Will Be the Most Popular Writing Site on the Internet
• Triond: A Boost of Encouragement for New and Seasoned Writers
• Triond Tips: More Insights on How to Substantially Increase Your Success
• Triond Etiquette: How to Be Successful With the Triond Community

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