The Danger of Too Much Love

Love can make the world go round. Literally, I couldn’t figure out if this cliché makes real sense in a non-poetic world. Figuratively though, this is true. When there is love, everything else follows. If you love yourself, you start caring for your body and everything about yourself. You treasure what you have and develop your skills and talents. And if have an abundant love for yourself, then you also have an abundant love to share with your family, friends, other people and even with the least lovable things around you.

Similarly, if you do things that you truly love, you will also harvest more love from it. Even if at first you don’t feel like doing the things you do, which is normal, but if you put an effort on learning to put love on what you do, you’d eventually become passionate about it. With passion, there is dedication, which then leads to mastery. Mastery of specific things makes a person filled with abundance. And our sense of abundance makes us open more of ourselves to others.

I have been stepping the responsibility as a parent over my siblings for years now. I take charge of their finances in college. Though I couldn’t provide them the lavish kind of student life, but I’m trying so hard to at least prevent them from experiencing the worst things that happened to me when I was still in college. I’m quite unsure if it’s love that pushes me to do it but I just feel capable of sharing to them what I have. Besides I don’t want to see myself someday regretting what I could’ve done differently.

Love can be addictive. When you start having it, you also start losing control of yourself and you unselfishly outpour what you have to others. Sadly, there is no other way to preemptively measure how much we’ve shared but to realize one day that we’ve given more than enough. It is sometimes when we realize that we’ve already been used up and that we just realize we have nothing left for ourselves.

Sometimes, we won’t realize that the love we give is too much already. As the song goes, too much love will kill you, so as too much of anything is no longer good for yourself and even to others. Medicine for instance is good, but too much of it causes more harm than good to the body.

I know a friend who has the same situation as mine. He also supports his family. His only problem is that he gives everything he has, leaving almost nothing for himself. Now, he’s close to being broke. He feels like he has nothing else to give to them.

It sounds a little bit selfish but it is also important to leave reservations for ourselves. Nothing is worse than waking up one day that you totally have nothing left for yourself. And you just can’t simply give what you don’t have.

Love is a dose that you can’t get enough of but also can’t afford to overdose.