Progressive Understanding of Love

In the state of adolescence you are prompted to believe that there is no one else who understands love more than you do but you are unaware that all other people of your age think the same. The body happens to be experiencing changes, while reaching the adulthood, and certain sensations which are so unique, for you have never experienced them before, begin to alienate you from others and the presumed love for the other sex overpowers you. There is nothing strange and unique in it because every single human being experiences the same. Since you don’t share it with others like you, you begin to believe that it is happening to you only.

With the progression of time, you acquire a partner of the opposite sex and the touches, kisses, and hugs lead to physical lust and after the first encounter you have a firm belief that you can’t live without him or her. The aroma, the attraction, the new found experience is so exotic and comforting that you want to repeat it over and again. Some of the people quickly pledge their lives to each other and they often get married. Mind it the union which has taken place went through mind, sensations, and the fulfillment of physical desires. You believe that you have understood love but you are wrong because you wanted something and you got it and in the process the beautiful bliss of love is forgotten.

After the union, the staleness of the relationship begins to raise its head and you feel that it is definitely not like the first experience. It is quite natural because you never tried to make it eternal; your entire energy was centered on acquiring her or his body and you wanted to possess her or him. Unfortunately or fortunately, depending on the states of minds of the partners, if a child is produced in the process, the things begin to change drastically. The physical aspect, especially of the female, begins to lose charm for the male partner. You see millions of married people but I can guarantee you that majority of them really pretend to be happily married.

I have tried to understand love beyond that and I have found that desires, spiritual or physical, have nothing to do with love. People have limited love to the love between a male and female. I have very strenuously tried and succeeded to emancipate this very love from the clutches of males and females and then I found that there is something in love which is called bliss. I am only concerned with that bliss and I am ready to remain in the state of bliss. The momentary physical desires arise and then go back to sleep again, after the fulfillment but I never associate them with the love I have realized in me.

Understanding of love is progressive and it can only be understood over a very long period of time, and, perhaps, this life is too short to understand it. With the passage of time, I decided not to try to understand it because I have come to the conclusion that love is not something which can be exchanged, because then it will be business or politics. I know it is very difficult to say that ‘I am love’ instead of saying ‘I love you’ because you don’t get anything in return and ‘I love you too’ is missing. I know that it is not possible to convince the partner that she should also think the way I do and I don’t want to do that because in that case it will be my dominance over her. I have often thought and concluded that love is very personal and very unique only if it is only the source of no return and you don’t expect anything in return. Just give it a try and don’t wait for the returns and see if something unique happens to you. The day you feel that something has happened to you and you have forgotten to expect anything in return, you will be on your way to divinity. I am on the way and I don’t know when it is going to happen but I am sure that it is going to happen sooner or later because the turmoil in my mind has subsided, the sensations have lost their power over my mind and body, and the external attractions no more pull me like they used to do during the state of adolescence.

If you really want to understand, first of all give it a time and second make it only one way, without waiting for the return. You will see that with the progressive understanding of love, you will be love only love and there will not be any other digressive force to snatch the bliss which you will be experiencing eternally. The road to Athens is hard but it will definitely be worth. Just give it a try.