Live The Couple

One joy is seeing our loved ones happy. This kind of happiness level is higher than the happiness of the individual. Perhaps, it came under the category of social happiness.

Not easy to obtain this kind of happiness. Especially for those who are selfish. All happiness is measured by happiness yourself. Such persons are the typical “hunter of happiness’, which would never find happiness …

Marriage is a way to gain happiness, happy with the way our spouse. Our partners. Wife or husband. Could it happen? Could, when armed with love marriage. Not just love hunting. Why, what’s the difference?

Armed with love, we love our partners. Want to give something to the couple that she was happy. While the hunt for love, we want to be loved. Want something from your partner, so we are happy.

In your opinion, which is better? The pursuit of love or give love? The pursuit of happiness or bring happiness? Pursuit of satisfaction or even give satisfaction? Which one would be happy, as the first or the second?

Apparently, the second. The pursuit of love will only encourage you to hunt for something superficial. You never achieve. Because, the desire is something that is never ending. Especially greed.

Today you feel the love from your partner, then next time you will feel dissatisfied. And want to get more out of it. Been obtained yet, the next you’ll want more.

It almost makes no difference to want to pursue pleasure in a way to own a car or house.When we were poor, we thought that would love to have a car worth tens of millions of dollars. We tried to chase him. So get it. And we are happy.

But not long after, we want to have a car that cost hundreds of millions of dollars. We already have cars that are no longer fun, or particularly happy.

Our minds constantly occupied by the shadow of how nice to have a car worth hundreds of millions of dollars. If then we can fulfill that desire, we also feel happy. However, it was not long. Our minds will be filled by the shadows, how nice to have a car worth billions of dollars. So it went on. Try to feel this in your life, then you will feel and justify it.

Pleasure and happiness is not the way you get after him, but rather a way to feel what you already have. And if you are grateful, then happiness will come by itself in the change that comes next.

You do not need to pursue happiness, because you already hold it. All you’re really doing is paying attention to what you already have. Not see and pursuing something that you do not have. The more you pay attention to what you have, the more so the pleasure of having. So, the key is not to pursue, but to give.

Similarly, in marriage. If we want happiness, do not the pursuit of happiness. But by giving happiness to our spouses. Not the pursuit of love, but to give love. Not the pursuit of satisfaction, but satisfaction.

Then you will get happiness from two directions. The first one, you’ll get from your partner. Feeling happy, he will reply to deliver happiness.

The second, that happiness will come from within yourself. When we succeed in giving satisfaction to our partners, we will feel satisfied. When it works to give pleasure to our partners, we also feel happy. And when we succeed in giving happiness to the wife or husband, then we feel happy.

This joy is not playing. Quantity and quality is up to you. Want to be happier, then bahagiakanlah your partner. Want more fun, then cheer up your partner more. And, you want to be more satisfied? then your partner with more satisfaction. You also will feel more satisfied. It’s up to you, ask for the pleasure, satisfaction, or happiness for anything. Because the key is in your own hands. The more give more delicious taste.

You are used to measure the happiness of selfish and personal enjoyment, will need time to explore and reflect on the above sentences.

A more concrete example is the marriage with unrequited love. This kind of marriage really make love not those who suffer. Though he loved. All their needs met by their partner. Let’s say she the woman.

All her needs are always met by her husband. Home there. Cars available. Clothing, jewelry, and all it needs is fulfilled. But he never felt happy. Why? Since there is no love in his heart.

Instead, the husband was happy, because he loved his wife. He felt happy and satisfied when I can buy a house. He also felt happy and satisfied when I can buy a car.

And he was happy and satisfied when it can meet all the needs of the wife he loved it. The more love it, and the more he gives to his wife, the more make happy her husband. If he really in love with his wife, then the measure of happiness is the happiness of the wife. If the wife happy, he felt happy. If she had, she felt miserable.

Case will be different, if the husband does not love his wife. He simply demanded that his wife loved him. Give pleasure, satisfaction and happiness to him. When all it does not comply with his wish, he would always feel unhappy. Not satisfied.

Conversely, if the wife is then able to love her husband – because goodness is given continuously to him – then the wife was actually going to get happiness from it.

Services that had been made with forced against her husband, now replaced by a sense of sincerity and love. Suddenly she felt the pleasure and happiness that has no measure.

If he had to cook her husband and forced reluctantly, for example, now he does it with pleasure and flowery. Where once he was tortured while serving her husband in bed, now he felt a burning love.

Yes, all of a sudden everything feels so different. Full of pleasure and happiness. Though all the activities he is doing the same. What sets it apart? The feeling of love!

When the ‘Armed Love’, the more he gives, the more the feeling of happiness gained. This gives us that it is not really a happy person who loved, but loving person. People who are in love …

Because it’s wrong to want to be loved. We have to do is love your spouse. The greater our love to him, the happier we are because of it. And the second, the more you give to her happiness, the more we happy…

That should be our home. Not sue each other for happed, but give each other for happiness. Because that is where the key to happiness is in truth to happiness …