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I’d Like a Table with More Friends and Money Please: Oh, You Mean I Have to Earn It?

Lately, I have come to the conclusion that ranting and stirring the pot is my greatest achievement. I’m not embarrassed since my whole life has been spent throwing my tongs at a Expediter that makes me redo a work of art, oh wait that’s me.

I had the recent pleasure of befriending Glynis Smy who wrote a follow up to my article Triond Etiquette: What’s Your Purpose of Being Here? called “Jump on my Triond Bandwagon”.

The characteristic’s that set Glynis apart is her grace, honesty, and her lovely pieces of written word. She is a voice of common decency and a writer with a mind that breaks the rules of common English, which is an overwhelming talent all on it’s own.

I believe that when you cross the path of someone that mirrors the same characteristics as yourself, you come to the conclusion that your creative thoughts are appreciated no matter what the platform.

However, when those ideals are challenged by a Triond troll, as I like to call them you wonder what is the sole purpose of someone being here with that kind of agenda.

From my perspective, and of course one that is blatantly honest, I think that page views come to mind. However, when new writers come to Triond with the hopes of making tons of money by leaving negative comments or leaving a kind message in your box saying “Please read my work” and nothing else, it really burns me up. Especially when I never see their names in my comment section.

I know your saying, well didn’t you do that? The answer is, no I did not. I took the time to comment and follow people before I made any kind of comment. I read recently on a new Profile “I am adding tons of friends so they will  read my work, you can add my name if you want to”, as if he was saying I might read your articles.

Anyone that has a keen sense of Triond or is over the age of 20 would never leave that in their profile. It’s one thing to hide your true colors but, it’s quite another to put them all out in the open for the whole community to see.

I would like to introduce 3 Items of Information that every new and old writer should already know.

The Three T’s of Triond

Try to comment when you can
Take the time to research before you make friends.
Take a moment and remind yourself that you are an adult and not a kindergartner running on the playground looking to knock over the weaker, geekier version of yourself.

Well, now that my rant is over and my spoon in the pot has calmed down, I would like to keep the bandwagon going  by mentioning some more Triond Greats that I have come across for a mention:

Pamela Shrove for Pretend World
Carmen Magnolia for Stand by It
Rebekah Humphrey for Monologue, Alice
Fisherbridge for A Look at Global Warming
Virgina Morgan for Bound and Buried
Tony Chiodo for The Evolution of Modern Man

It amazes me that some writers come to Triond and remain unnoticed while angry, self serving, talentless ogre’s stick around and don’t get kicked off. Oh, am I live? lol

~Blessings and Have a wonderful Thanksgiving~

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35 Responses to “I’d Like a Table with More Friends and Money Please: Oh, You Mean I Have to Earn It?”
  • Enzo Silvestri
    November 24th, 2008 at 6:43 am

    this is great, you are always uplifting us and writing something upbuilding. I love to read your contributions
    Thank you

  • Lucas Dié
    November 24th, 2008 at 6:52 am

    I said it before, I’ll say it again: Nothing like a good gripe to clean the air :)

    Well done Lauren, I just love to read your stuff.

  • catlord
    November 24th, 2008 at 7:12 am

    Nice :)

  • Glynis Smy
    November 24th, 2008 at 7:39 am

    Oh Lauren, thank you for a breath of fresh air and for a friendship I treasure.

    November 24th, 2008 at 8:48 am

    I also have a similar problem. New writers post me many links to read their works. And they said that they’ve read my articles, but I didn’t see any comments they left for my works at Triond.

  • Dendro Azures
    November 24th, 2008 at 9:18 am

    I love your rants. while I haven’t had the pleasure of a Triond Troll just yet, I understand the aggravation they pose.

    I also appreciate how you list folks to check out…thanks!

  • Christy Tuller
    November 24th, 2008 at 10:47 am

    Wonderful article! I too have had the pleasure of befriending Glynis and I can say that she is a wonderful friend to have. I have had some unusual messages sent without ever recieving comments on any of my articles. I agree, before you just add friends willy nilly, you should research, read and comment on their articles on a regular basis and show them that you really will be a friend! Great article once again and now I’m off to read more!

  • goodselfme
    November 24th, 2008 at 11:05 am

    stirring the pot is a good thing. I only hope the RIGHT people read this and then spend some time to read,comment and actually care. Those are my interests on triond. the money sure is not. I make $8 a month. I work realy hard at reading others work.Personally anymore, when someone asks me to add them to my friends;I let the know I run my triond account a certain way. You read my post, comment and I return that gesture.I rarely hear from them and never see their names on any of my work.Being a friend is more than asking for a read! Again thank you for stirring the pot, my friend.

  • Patrick Bernauw
    November 24th, 2008 at 12:18 pm

    Always a pleasant and interesting read… by a true… eh… Triond… eh… Community Worker?

  • R J Evans
    November 24th, 2008 at 4:48 pm

    Triond troll – I love it! That’s such a good name for someone out there right now!

    Lauren – you are absolutely right. The amount of “Add me as a Fwend” requests I get from people with *no* profile and no *interest* in reading anyone else’s work is amazing – tho I must admit I do check them out and have found a few more than worthwhile!

    I love a quick buck. This is so *not* the place, tho – as we Triond hacks have discovered! :-)

    Thanks for some timely and, as ever, well composed words!


  • Blue Buttefly
    November 24th, 2008 at 4:56 pm

    Yeah, the pot needs to be stirred frequently. I only posted just few of my article but I get excellent support from my friends because I am doing my commitment being so. Well done!

  • lindalulu
    November 24th, 2008 at 5:49 pm

    Thank you Lauren and you have a Happy Thanksgiving also!

  • Mary Patricia Bird
    November 24th, 2008 at 5:55 pm

    I managed to gain a few friends by posting a note to my fellow MyLotters over there. I was sure a lot of them wrote for Triond but only got a few friends that way. I may not always comment, but I always read.

  • Michele Cameron Drew
    November 24th, 2008 at 7:46 pm

    Lovely Lauren, warm, witty and stirring the pot once again. This is why we love you. :)


  • Leo Reyes
    November 24th, 2008 at 8:55 pm

    Hi Lauren,

    In my case, I decided to stay for good with Triond. In one of my articles entitled: “My Happy and Sad Experiences with Triond”, I talked a little bit about page views, declined articles, hot content lists, among others. I am glad that some of us Triond Writers share my feelings and observations. And I am equally happy that Triond editors have given me space to express my thoughts on the editorial policies of Triond.

    Great article and I enjoyed reading it.

    Here’s the link>

  • Chris Stonecipher
    November 24th, 2008 at 9:02 pm

    I think that some of our talented Triond writers have been guilty of this too. I have had a few writers ask me to be their friend and then tell me later they don’t share the same interest in my writing subjects after I invested time to read and make thoughtful comments on their work.
    Keep stirring the pot Lauren! I love it.

  • Darlene McFarlane
    November 24th, 2008 at 9:47 pm

    I hope that spoon is a big one, Lauren because you need to keep it going.

    One positive thing about new members who leave self serving comments..we know before we take time to read their articles what to expect as far as friendship or reciprocation. The worst message I received simply said, “Hi I’m new. Add me.” To me a comment like that only gets one click…the delete button.

    I say, You go girl!

    PS. Triond Trolls! Good one, I hope it sticks.

  • Chris Stonecipher
    November 24th, 2008 at 9:58 pm

    I have checked out Virginia Morgan’s work. She is quite talented, friendly and leaves heartfelt well thought out comments. I added her as a friend.

  • joystick7
    November 24th, 2008 at 10:57 pm

    Another Good Read!

  • valli
    November 24th, 2008 at 11:36 pm

    Thanks Lauren for such a wonderful read!

  • HatedNation
    November 25th, 2008 at 12:13 am

    Lauren for (Triond) president!
    Lauren, you have great work and i admire how you take the time to get other up and coming writers out there. You obviously have readers and pull with the better portions of the community, and its great you can sway some of your loyals to read others as well, great job keeping the community going in the right direction, and thank you as well for your comments to me!
    If I never make the “hot writers” list I would be just as happy making your list!

  • Eunice Tan
    November 25th, 2008 at 12:33 am

    Dear Lauren,
    You are one of my supportive friend in Triond. I notice too you leave comments in many Triond’s articles. We are lucky to have you as friend. Thanks for this interesting article.

  • leannehume
    November 25th, 2008 at 3:25 am

    All of your work has it’s own unique style, fasinating everytime. good work!

  • Rebekah Humphrey
    November 25th, 2008 at 3:45 pm

    I loved this, as I did your other article on this subject.

    I ignore those people who just ask me to add them. I add friends if I have read something which interests me. (I have added some people who we don’t even write the same, but I just like what they have done) That way I can keep track of anything new they produce.

    And as for the money, I didn’t even realise that you got paid on here until after I signed up.

    Keep stiring the pot. Someone has to do it, and you do it well.

    Oh, and thanks for recommending one of my pieces. I am all embarrased now.

  • Lauren Axelrod
    November 25th, 2008 at 5:34 pm

    I am so appreciative of all of the support and comments on this topic. I stumbled upon Triond over 3 months ago and I thought I would take a chance knowing that I had a bit of an obsession with writing and pushing people to be greater than I ever thought I could be.

    I love it here and love all of you. You’re my second family away from home.

  • Peter Cimino
    November 25th, 2008 at 7:51 pm

    Oustanding Lauren! I could not have agreed with you more. I think we all understand that it is difficult to read, view and comment on every piece of work that comes up. But, a valent effort is all that is asked. We all know those that are out here with honorable intentions.
    To be honest, I did not join Triond to make money. I joined first and foremost for the opportunity to meet up with fellow writers that have a passion for writing and strive to be good writers. The second reason was to build a resume by getting published. The money is not important to me. In my mind, that will come later when hopefully my book gets publshed. Hopefully the resume I build here will help me get noticed.
    Anyway, good job on stirring the pot. I have a lot respect for people like that…especially when your intentions are good and you are trying to get a popular opinion out there.

  • Joce Boldi
    November 26th, 2008 at 1:18 pm

    I love your writing and I find it refreshing. I came across your name just browsing and I’m glad I did. So far I’ve come to love when you “stir the pot”, I can’t wait to read your next piece!

  • Melissa Joyce
    November 28th, 2008 at 10:17 am

    I appreciate pieces like this. It’s interesting to see that others are having a similar experience. I just got my first “friend” that basically just wants me to comment on their stuff so they can make money. It doesn’t make me mad. It actually makes me sad that they don’t understand what a great community this is. It fills my need to read, read, and read more. I really enjoy what everyone writes. It also gives me a chance to write anything I want to.

  • jo oliver
    November 30th, 2008 at 12:10 am

    Hey Lauren,
    Glad to see you are still standing up and telling it like it is. Great job! You have been saying what most of us honest writers are thinking. The rudeness and nerve of some writers here is infuriating. That is one reason I just needed a break :(

  • Karen N
    December 7th, 2008 at 8:48 am

    Very refreshing view :)

  • Jeoffrey Meister
    December 7th, 2008 at 12:32 pm

    Very bold, honest and to-the-point. Lauren, I was in the newspaper business for a number of years (I sold advertising) and you remind me of one of my ad directors. He taught me that the people who find real success are the ones who are aware that they don’t know everything and they can always learn more. That has been a real help in my life. You’re a smart person.

  • Virginia Wolfe
    December 14th, 2008 at 4:30 pm

    i get so behind in my reading. there just isnt enough time in the day to keep up with all this wonderful work. great article lauren. i will have to add it to the list of articles that i give others to find out how to use triond!

  • Carmen Magnolia Song
    December 23rd, 2008 at 10:50 am

    Thank you, you are a great writer!

    Keep standing by it.


    -Carmen Magnolia

  • Mercedes Selvira
    December 29th, 2008 at 9:22 pm

    Thank you for another wonderfully honest, passionate, and accurate article. It’s really nice to finally see someone on Triond who shares my ideals; I was beginning to lose faith in the community, thinking that it had been overtaken by those who are just in it for the money (what money, lol). Stephen King wrote in the foreword to one of his books, “If you do it for the money, you’re a monkey.” I will never be a “monkey,” and it’s good to know that the Homo sapiens is not so close to extinction here on Triond.

  • SimplyShash
    December 10th, 2010 at 8:00 am

    Wonderful post. All three T(ip)s are very much worth implementing. Thanks.

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