Disagreements on Written Material

Posted on April 7th, 2009 in Online Writing by Westbrook

Sometimes people make comments on our articles that we do not like and they may anger us, or at least disappoint us because the opinions differ from ours.

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Although some comments on our work may anger us, we need to be mindful that people are different. We have different minds and have experienced different things in life – some people have had it relatively easy in life, while others may have experienced much hurt, frustration and many disappointments.

People will always disagree on some issues and may seem to be arguing when they oppose something we write. However, expressing different opinions and sharing different ideas do not necessarily mean they are arguing. If we become hostile from the exchange of different opinions and ideas, it generally indicates an inability to, or unwillingness to compromise. It often indicates immaturity.

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If two people agree on everything all the time, there probably is something wrong with the relationship, maybe dishonesty. It may show an uncaring about what the other thinks. Many disagreements are simply just misunderstandings about each other’s motives and ideas, or an inability to understand what they are reading, if the issue is written.

Probably the main reason for not accepting other opinions is the lack of real face-to-face discussion. Writing can never deliver the true meaning of an issue of the heart and can often lead to totally different meanings and misunderstanding. It is very difficult to convey real feelings through written words. Many relationships go down in smoke when two people try to discuss sensitive issues through writing and do not get together to discuss them.

People on Triond should realize that honest people will never agree with everything writen and may bluntly state it. This should not cause us to want to delete them from our friends list. Of course, sometimes rogue writers pop up and say harmful things about our articles. These are writers to ignore. Another thing that we should always be mindful of is that some of us, at times, may not be able to spend time submitting anything on Triond, and will not be able to comment on material. We should not become hurt or angry when this happens. I personally have been too busy to participate for the past month and will probably not be able to spend much time on Triond and Stumbleupon for the next few weeks. This is because I am a tax preparer, but I do try to view some material (number of views are important). I also try to stumble the items of my friends.

I hope this point of view helps writers to be objective and non-judgmental when comments are written that may anger or upset them, or may not be understood. It should be understood that “yes” people are not always honest and honest opinions may hurt, but should generally be tolerated and considered.

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13 Responses to “Disagreements on Written Material”

stephencardiff
April 7th, 2009 at 7:30 am

Everyone is entitled to their own opinion this is the right of the free world, not everyone will agree on everything if they did what kind of world would it be… It would be a boring place to live when everything is predictable… just like right and wrong, up or down, hot or cold or left or right… without an arguement or questions there would be nothing…
So you are spot on here Wes I will agree with you here we’ll just have to see who disagrees with this… great work
Darla Smith
April 7th, 2009 at 10:31 am

A very well written article. Thanks for sharing.
papaleng
April 7th, 2009 at 11:41 am

you have said your thoughts loud and clear. Thanks my friend for sharing.
Daisy Peasblossom
April 7th, 2009 at 5:24 pm

First of all, glad to hear from you, Wes! I knew you were busy; but I’ve missed your down-to-earth, practical observations. Print is always a problem, because the printed word is uninflected and we can’t see body language. Beyond that, most of us would really like to tune out dissenting opinions–being much fonder of our own. Thank you, Wes, for the reminder that we grow through examining other people’s points of view.
Betty Carew
April 7th, 2009 at 5:31 pm

You are so right West I always welcome constructive comments and it helps me learn to do better as I go. Excellent article and very well said.
Debra.
April 7th, 2009 at 6:11 pm

Very well expressed, Wess. I couldn’t agree more. We all have our own opinions and look at things differently then some. Great piece.
kate smedley
April 8th, 2009 at 12:45 pm

Totally agree, you’ve raised some important points here.
maranatha
April 8th, 2009 at 3:40 pm

I enjoy criticism usually. First, it makes me examine whether I wrote correctly – did I say what I wanted to say? Second, it cements my own belief. By examining differing viewpoints, I become more clear on my own. Third, I learn from it – son of a gun, I am not always right, after all!!!

Good write, and good advice.
S A JOHNSON
April 8th, 2009 at 8:45 pm

Great article. I think that it’s very important that people do understand this. After all beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Just because people say something is good or bad does not make it so.
CutestPrincess
April 10th, 2009 at 12:51 pm

well, you have some good points, but you can spot some sensitive person, like me, im very sensitive, i easily get hurt… i hate criticism, because i believe in the saying, “when you have nothing good to say, dont say anything at all”… is it that hard to be nice to everyone? or to be more positive? im very nice to everyone i met, but i know, i cannot please every one!
samuel
April 12th, 2009 at 5:39 am

well the article is good and it does make some good sense
Johnny Yuma
July 6th, 2009 at 3:45 pm

I thoroughly enjoy reading your articles, and this one was no exception. I am glad I stopped by today. Johnny Yuma
Goodselfme
September 23rd, 2009 at 1:45 pm

I agree with your printed words. TX

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