Dealing with Negativity
Triond is a wonderful site with wonderful people full of great karma, but lately we seem to have been overrun by cowardly people with leaving negative comments.
As all of you know, my feelings for Triond and most of its members are like none other. The karma here from all of you is what keeps bringing me back over and over again, but lately we seem to have been infiltrated by cowards who are leaving a lot of negative comments on our articles.
This makes me angry! This site and the members who make up this site have never been rude, mean, or even negative about anything anyone writes. Yes, we all give our opinions, but for someone to be out right rude and leave a comment and wont even put their real names and credentials to them makes me ever madder. For all of those who are doing this just remember Karma! What you put off whether it be negative or positive will come back to you three fold.
Anyways, How are we supposed to stop this? I don’t think we can, but the past few days I have received my fair share of asinine comments on some of my work. The other day there was another friend of mine BoJack who was also being plagued by the same occurrences.
How are we supposed to handle this? I am not sure, and ya, it is normal to feel our blood rise and get a bit upset from the negativity left behind by the coward who stopped by. Like a male dog, they have to leave their scent with the lifting of their leg and what they left behind is total crap.
We must not let these idiots upset us with their cruelty. This is a writing site, a place to post what we want and feel. Fact or fiction, it doesn’t matter. I am not saying whether any of the stories I posted are fact or fiction, and to be honest I do not have to reveal that. Sometimes its fun to have comments such as this one attached to a article that was complete fiction for instance this comment below that was left for me:
#45 by sure, Feb 10, 2009
I’m sure you are just wonderful and he’s just a dick. Huh, I wonder what he would say because most of the time the person that thinks they are the better one in the relationship are usually the worse ones. Obviously something is wrong with you because you complain about your man to the world. So if you are so wonderful and he’s so bad why are you with him? Maybe because you can do no better? Maybe because you are self destructive? Maybe because you like being treated like crap? Who knows but that dude is the last one to blame. You’re a big girl who made a big girl decision to be in a big girl relationship. So be a big girl and do something about it or keep searching for pity from the strangers on the internet.
I must admit I was upset when I read this. I have run across this a couple times so I did leave a comment for this person called Sure, here is my reply comment to them:
#46 by lindalulu, Feb 10, 2009
I have one thing to say to you SURE, you are a total ass! You think you are so perfect you wont even leave your credentials on your comment. You have no right to judge me or anyone else on this planet. This write may not necessarily be about me. Have you thought of that one? I feel no need to defend myself or justify my writings. If you don’t like my posts then don’t stop by. I do think I know your pen name as I have dealt with you before and maybe Triond would like this information passed along to them. Please just pass me by next time as I don’t need to waste my precious time on you.
Did writing this comment back make me feel better? Of course it did, but I guess there are some jerks out there that happen to stumble upon our writings and for some reason or another NEED to send their negativity our way. I have found that usually these people are unhappy with their lives in general but I refuse to lower myself to this idiots level. The reason I decided to write this was not only for me, who by now has thick skin, but for those members who joined this site just a short time ago. A comment like this could make a newbie stop posting. It did me some time ago, but I got over it.
With all this said, I will state this, I write because I have a true passion for it, and I post for exposure for my work. Fact or fiction the page views we all get and the penny here or there brings us back for more, but the thing that really makes me continue posting is the positive comments I receive. The bond we as friends have formed cannot be compared to any other. Triond is a very special community and these people that zoom through on the fly may as well keep zooming on by. We all must remember not everyone was made the same and everyone has a different outlook on what is acceptable and what is not. With all this said, Happy posting my friends!
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February 11th, 2009 at 6:06 am
hi linda, i feel the same way too, there’s a lot of people here also leave me some bad/negative comments and change their original nick, it doesnt matter to me if their not dis agree to my articles, because we cannot pls everyone, the point is, they don’t need to say bad words like “stupid, idiot, ass” and whatsover. i just look at the bright side, atleast they viewed my article, and it’s a plus to my views! no matter what forum you may go to, you can find ignorant and jealous people. Those people wish they were smart enough but they’re losers! Calm down!
February 11th, 2009 at 9:22 am
I don’t think there’s ever a reason to be negative here. I have seen it, but I don’t understand it. Constructive commenting is helpful…making it personal..NOT. Great read. And, you linda, have been a positive force for me here.
Thank you.
February 11th, 2009 at 9:43 am
Hi, Linda. I think you’re not alone here. I was left negative, abused and sarcastic comments, and was humiliated for being a Chinese. Well, I may not be good at writing, as some may have thought of since I’m not a native speaker, but at least I try my best. There are so many types of people out there and we really can’t get them out since the internet platform is not being screened thoroughly.
What we can do is to delete such negative comments and ignore them. It’s pointless to think of this negative comment as it’ll consume you more time that you may have used to write more. So, have yourself no worry, we’re in the same boat, but keep our community’s relationship be closed and united.
I hope this helps and also hope that you feel better. Take care, my friend.
February 11th, 2009 at 10:24 am
Thanks for all the support from all of you, but I wrote this article not only for myself but for others who are receiving the same. I just want people to know if they receive them it is ok and the ones doing it will always be nasty in the end. Chan I am so sorry for you being humiliated because of your race. People like that are so shallow and non understanding of humans in general. Racist people I have absolutely no use for. If any of us cut ourselves, ALL of our blood runs red and we are all Gods children. We will triumph in life unlike these people who have nothing better to do than hurt someone! Life is a learning experience and this is just another hurdle in Gods plan. Thanks Again!
February 11th, 2009 at 4:52 pm
You know full well how I feel about this and these comments I have been hearing about and have had are completely uncalled for. I figure, some people’s lives are so depressing and ordinary that they have to make others lives miserable. I feel really sad for them. It must be hard living with mediocrity.
Love you lots and love the piece!
February 11th, 2009 at 8:44 pm
I’m sorry that you have received bad comments. But don’t let it get to you. There is always a bad apple in the barrel.
February 12th, 2009 at 3:17 am
Hey Linda, I do get some stingy comments but I ignore them. Why should I bother to retaliate, these people are just waiting for you to reply. just continue on writing and who will be at the losing end those “$%###” can’t mention the word that really apply to these cowards.
February 12th, 2009 at 12:23 pm
Hi Linda,
I beleive there are some people who get something out of being nasty. Who knows? Maybe they have a void they are trying to fill?
I noticed this when I worked in retail: some people were wonderful and real human beings; others seemed to delight in tormenting the sales staff and putting them down.
Someone who does this obviously has much hostility/anger and is directing it outwards, over dealing with their own issues.
Sadly, some people like this never progress to a higher level of being.
February 12th, 2009 at 3:30 pm
hey linda…i guess once a coward always a coward….i think dey leave rude comments either cuz dey r purely jealous or dey dont hv anythin betta to do….n yes i do believe in karma too…wot goes around will surely come around….glad you put it out for those losers to read…Cheers!